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Self Compassion: Building the House You Live In

Self Compassion: Building the House You Live In

“A word after a word after a word is power.” Margaret Atwood tells us. “You cannot build joy on a feeling of self-loathing.” teaches Ram Dass. “The words you speak become the house you live in.” writes the poet Hafiz. All three offer the wisdom that how we speak to and about ourselves influences the ways we show up in the world and engage with others. Language helps us to make meaning of our experiences. When the stories we tell about ourselves are full of demeaning, unkind, and unsympathetic words and phrases, it increases our stress levels, makes it more difficult for us to be kind and compassionate to others, and over time, significantly decreases our motivation to actually make positive changes in our lives (Neff, 2011). 

The Importance of Self Love...

The Importance of Self Love...

Have you ever told yourself, “I love you?” Do you cater to your needs and happiness? Do you appreciate yourself and make decisions that will positively support your growth and development? If so, you are experiencing self-love…

Alone in a Room Full of People: The Case of Chronic Loneliness

Alone in a Room Full of People: The Case of Chronic Loneliness

Imagine being in a room full of people, yet you still have a deep feeling of alienation. This is one example of what it feels like to experience chronic loneliness. We are living in a time where social distancing has become the norm…

Imposter Syndrome in The Workplace: Freedom in Your Truth

Imposter Syndrome in The Workplace: Freedom in Your Truth

Have you ever felt like you were the “Only One” in the room? In this moment, did you feel stereotyped and caged by your age, gender, race, color, national origin, sexual orientation, or disability? Competition and toxic achievement can lead to high levels of anxiety…

The Soul of Self LOVE

The Soul of Self LOVE

The alarm goes off at 4:00 am. Eyes slowly blink to awareness. Wide yawns welcome another day. Yet instead of the usual rising that eases me out of bed, there’s a familiar pain–a heaviness that arrests me to immobility.

Deep breaths offer no relief. Rather, they only confirm the grip of weight that aggressively shoots across my back.

Loving Self Acceptance

Loving Self Acceptance

On Sunday I danced in my sports bra, leggings and heels.

I guess I should start by saying I’m on a dance team. A ladies SALSA dance team with some BADASS Bitches!!! Let’s not forget to mention I am the oldest member of the dance team in my WELL seasoned, RIPE like a PEACH ripe, age of 43. I won’t leave out that I am the mother of 1 and a possible teenagers not for sympathy or pity because MY BODY is BEAUTIFUL…

3 Techniques to Aid in Forgiveness: Part 1

3 Techniques to Aid in Forgiveness: Part 1

I recently had the honor and privilege of visiting with my Dad and both my Maternal and Paternal Grandmothers ages 85 and 89 respectively. My Dad who is 65 years old, had been in the hospital for several days experiencing some issues with digestion, a complication we think…

Forgiveness is a Practice

One of the biggest things I’ve ever had to forgive was the perceived betrayal and abandonment of a former lover. We had been together for years, simultaneously wounding, vicariously living in and off of each other’s misery. Him unable to forgive me. ..