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Loving Self Acceptance

Loving Self Acceptance

On Sunday I danced in my sports bra, leggings and heels.

I guess I should start by saying I’m on a dance team. A ladies SALSA dance team with some BADASS Bitches!!! Let’s not forget to mention I am the oldest member of the dance team in my WELL seasoned, RIPE like a PEACH ripe, age of 43. I won’t leave out that I am the mother of 1 and a possible teenagers not for sympathy or pity because MY BODY is BEAUTIFUL…

The Processing Process

The Processing Process

I spent a number of years “collecting data” on how to live. Figuring most things out by trial and error. Making my way the best way I knew how...barely. As I started to get more deliberate about my healing journey and try new things, processes and techniques began to show up and many have proven to be effective in bringing forth clarity and optimizing healing.

Learning to Love Yourself Better

Learning to Love Yourself Better

I don’t think I’ve ever been in a relationship where I could exhale. Honestly both in and out of love, I think I’ve spent the better of my life holding my breath. Waiting for the next not so great thing to happen. Expecting the worst and perhaps preparing for it in my expectation of it...being human. Cultivating through every perceived rejection, disappointment and abuse the resiliency of a rubber band, the tenacity of a sponge. Especially in love...

3 Techniques to Aid in Forgiveness: Part 1

3 Techniques to Aid in Forgiveness: Part 1

I recently had the honor and privilege of visiting with my Dad and both my Maternal and Paternal Grandmothers ages 85 and 89 respectively. My Dad who is 65 years old, had been in the hospital for several days experiencing some issues with digestion, a complication we think…

Forgiveness: Ho'opono'pono

Forgiveness: Ho'opono'pono

H’opono’pono is a 4-line Hawaiian prayer that uses the forces of repentance, forgiveness, gratitude and love to bring forth healing and change.  While the order of which may not matter, the process I use states in order: I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You.  I have two primary….

Forgiveness: 3 Techniques to Aid in the Forgiveness Process

Forgiveness: 3 Techniques to Aid in the Forgiveness Process

Mantra: Forgiveness is a process and a practice. Though it sounds a bit cliche. What I’ve found is that oftentimes the very things that I’ve thought I’d forgiven find their way back to me. Old wounds and outdated feelings. Unresolved pain. The shards and shrapnel from hard…

Forgiveness is a Practice

One of the biggest things I’ve ever had to forgive was the perceived betrayal and abandonment of a former lover. We had been together for years, simultaneously wounding, vicariously living in and off of each other’s misery. Him unable to forgive me. ..